Modern society seems like such a rush, all the time. Unless you’re retired (and who retires anymore?) you’re probably dashing around all day, every day, following a schedule or at least marking off items on a to-do list that never seems to get any shorter. Our days are hectic, our nights are precious, and our weekends fully booked far in advance. And that’s if you’re married! For singles, we have to make time for dates, too. It can feel stressful, scary and like a real time-suck. But thanks to online dating, your romantic life could be as efficient as a well-oiled machine. And a lot more fun, unless that machine happens to be a Ferrari.
Frankly, I don’t know how many people would date at all if it weren’t for the internet… Some work 50 hours a week, play a sport, try to get to the gym and have children from a previous relationship. Once you’ve managed all that you have very little time to find love… And dating, by definition, is hit or miss. It’s a numbers game where you have to take a lot of shots in the dark to get a hit.
With online dating, you maximize your time and your odds. First off, your profile should be specific about your favourite dating activities, your relationship dealbreakers, your turn-ons and turn-offs, and your sense of humor. That makes it pretty clear who you are and what your looking for. Most people who aren’t your type usually pass on you at the profile stage. This is a GOOD thing and saves you time right there. Just remember do NOT have any negatives and ensure your profile is always upbeat and positive.
When you are looking at profiles, use advanced search parameters to refine your search as specifically as possible. Take the time to reference at least a couple of things in the person’s profile when you contact them…Ask them questions and engage them in a conversation—believe me, it’s worth it.
If you get to stage two and actually communicate, it’s because you like each other’s profiles. As you’ve contacted them they definitely fit your requirements for age, race, geography, lifestyle choices and so on. So, even before you’ve had a single conversation, you know there’s more romantic potential for you with that person than with eight out of ten people on the planet. Think about that! And all you’ve invested is a membership fee, the time to prepare a good profile, and some engaging emails. That’s it. On a weekly basis, you would spend more time drinking coffee or watching TV and this is much more important than that!
So, what’s next? An extended IM exchange, a phone call or a bunch of emails. Still, it rarely takes more than half an hour all told. Then you reach the point where you BOTH decide—sometimes right away, sometimes after a little more conversation—that a date is in order.
By the time you get to the first date you’ve already got a proven chemistry and if everyone’s been honest, there aren’t any major roadblocks to getting together on a more permanent basis
So, if you are time poor online dating is great way to find love and best of all you can do it in your jammies and have a bad hair day…and they will never know
NB: I met my husband online 10 years ago. We are still going strong and I would NEVER have met him any other way! Think about that next time you think about finding love